Sometimes, we keep our emotions inside to keep others happy. We hide our feelings for the sake of family, pride, or love. Over time, people begin to say, “You really understand others. You relate to them so well.” But they don’t know the truth. They don’t see how much we have hidden inside us.

It often starts with small sacrifices. Maybe you don’t share your worries because you don’t want to upset your parents. Maybe you stay silent when a friend hurts you because you don’t want to lose them. Slowly, you learn to push your feelings aside. You become someone who listens to others, someone who helps them feel better.

People see you as kind and understanding, but they don’t see the cost. To understand others, you first have to ignore your own pain. You learn to smile when you’re sad. You give advice even when you need it yourself. You carry everyone else’s emotions, but where do you put your own?

This can feel both good and bad. On one hand, you feel proud to help others. You become strong because you’ve learned to control your feelings. But on the other hand, it can feel heavy. You might feel tired or lonely, wishing someone would notice your struggles too.

The truth is, even the people who understand others deeply need someone to understand them. They need a safe place to let out their emotions. But asking for this can feel strange, even selfish. After all, you’re the one who’s supposed to be strong, right?

But being strong doesn’t mean hiding everything. Real strength is finding a balance. It’s okay to listen to others, but it’s also okay to share your feelings. It’s okay to ask for help.

So, the next time someone says, “You really understand me,” take a moment. Think about your own emotions too. You deserve to be heard, just like everyone else.